Tips for Taking Someone with Dementia to the Doctor
September 30, 2025
According to new research, the average time between the onset of symptoms and an official diagnosis of dementia is 3.5 years. That can mean a lot of doctor’s appointments, both in pursuit of a diagnosis and as your loved one’s condition progresses. When someone with cognitive decline goes to the doctor, they may not accurately describe their symptoms out of shame, fear of a diagnosis, or simply because they can’t recall their symptoms. Eventually, many people with dementia require someone else to take them to medical appointments so that family members and health care professionals have accurate communication.
You will need your loved one’s consent to accompany them to a doctor appointment. While it’s not necessary to have health care power of attorney to accompany someone to the doctor, it’s something you should seriously consider putting in place. As dementia progresses, the person affected loses their capacity to make legal decisions for themselves. It’s hard to know when exactly this happens, so it’s wise to make those legal preparations as early as possible after a diagnosis.
Here are some ways to make a trip to the doctor easier on people with dementia and their caregivers. Remember, dementia symptoms and behaviors can vary widely from person to person. You may choose to adjust these recommendations to better suit what you know about your loved one’s condition.
Before the appointment
First, schedule the appointment strategically during a time when your loved one may be most agreeable. Be prepared with a list of your questions and concerns, as well as a list of medications and supplements.
Make sure that your loved one understands that you will be there to make sure they get the best possible medical care.
Contact the doctor’s office ahead of time. Inform the medical staff about your loved one’s dementia diagnosis and any specific needs they might have. Many offices can accommodate requests such as shorter wait times, quieter exam rooms, or allowing you to wait in the car until called. Discreet communication with staff ahead of time ensures all the people involved in your loved one’s care get accurate information without your loved one feeling embarrassed.
During the appointment
Be prepared to offer details about changes in behavior, eating habits, or routines. Stay calm and positive. Your loved one will pick up on your emotions. Speak in a reassuring tone and maintain a calm demeanor, even if they become confused or agitated. Don’t hesitate to ask questions or request clarification about treatment recommendations. You know your loved one best and can provide valuable insights about what approaches work at home.
If necessary, use distraction techniques. Engage them in conversation about pleasant memories or interests while the doctor conducts the examination. This can reduce anxiety and make the process smoother.
Finally, ask the doctor about any resources that could assist your journey as a dementia caregiver. They may be aware of community supports, such as adult day programs or support groups, that could be helpful.
After the appointment
Summarize any new information or prescriptions and quickly schedule any follow-up appointments while the information is fresh in your mind. Share relevant information with other members of your loved one’s health care team, including specialists, pharmacists, or home health providers. Communicate with other family members about changes in your loved one’s condition or routine.
Support from long-term care
If your loved one lives in an assisted living or memory care community, they may be able to help get your loved one to their medical appointments.
“We can take them on the bus or if they are having trouble getting inside a loved one’s vehicle,” Sims said. “But outside of a major emergency, Fieldstone Village at Keizer Ridge staff is unable to accompany residents all the way in to the doctor’s office.”
Sims explained that if transportation to medical appointments becomes a struggle for family members, there is another option. Fieldstone Village at Keizer Ridge has recently partnered with Seva Medical, a physician-owned medical practice that specializes in bringing healthcare to long-term care communities in Washington and Oregon.
“Having an on-campus provider is such a bonus,” she said. “Especially with dementia, people can have good days and bad days. With an in-house provider, you won’t have the type of penalties that may occur if you need to cancel a previously scheduled appointment. It gives us more flexibility.”
Fieldstone Village at Keizer Ridge also works with podiatrists, home health workers, wound care specialists, and hospice teams to get all their residents the care they need, right where they live.
Taking your loved one with dementia to medical appointments requires patience, preparation, and flexibility. While it can be challenging, maintaining regular health care is crucial for their well-being. With thoughtful planning and clear communication with health care providers, you can help ensure your loved one receives the care they need while preserving their dignity and minimizing stress for both of you.