Tips for Taking Someone with Dementia to the Doctor
September 30, 2025
According to new research, the average time between the onset of symptoms and an official diagnosis of dementia is 3.5 years. That can mean a lot of doctor’s appointments, both in pursuit of a diagnosis and as your loved one’s condition progresses. When someone with cognitive decline goes to the doctor, they may not accurately describe their symptoms out of shame, fear of a diagnosis, or simply because they can’t recall their symptoms. Eventually, many people with dementia require someone else to take them to medical appointments so that family members and health care professionals have accurate communication.
You will need your loved one’s consent to accompany them to a doctor appointment. While it’s not necessary to have health care power of attorney to accompany someone to the doctor, it’s something you should seriously consider putting in place. As dementia progresses, the person affected loses their capacity to make legal decisions for themselves. It’s hard to know when exactly this happens, so it’s wise to make those legal preparations as early as possible after a diagnosis.
Here are some ways to make a trip to the doctor easier on people with dementia and their caregivers. Remember, dementia symptoms and behaviors can vary widely from person to person. You may choose to adjust these recommendations to better suit what you know about your loved one’s condition.
Before the appointment
First, schedule the appointment strategically during a time when your loved one may be most agreeable. Be prepared with a list of your questions and concerns, as well as a list of medications and supplements.
“Get started early,” advised Sierra Ward, Community Relations Assistant at Fieldstone of Bainbridge. “Sometimes they aren’t going to remember that they have something planned for today and we don’t want to rush them.”
And of course, Ward said, the best approach will be different for each individual.
“Talk with care staff and doctors about their routine and what may work best,” she said. “Some people get very anxious in care situations. There may be medications or activities that can help keep them calm.”
Make sure that your loved one understands that you will be there to make sure they get the best possible medical care.
Contact the doctor’s office ahead of time. Inform the medical staff about your loved one’s dementia diagnosis and any specific needs they might have. Many offices can accommodate requests such as shorter wait times, quieter exam rooms, or allowing you to wait in the car until called. Discreet communication with staff ahead of time ensures all the people involved in your loved one’s care get accurate information without your loved one feeling embarrassed.
During the appointment
Be prepared to offer details about changes in behavior, eating habits, or routines. Stay calm and positive. Your loved one will pick up on your emotions. Speak in a reassuring tone and maintain a calm demeanor, even if they become confused or agitated. Don’t hesitate to ask questions or request clarification about treatment recommendations. You know your loved one best and can provide valuable insights about what approaches work at home.
If necessary, use distraction techniques. Engage them in conversation about pleasant memories or interests while the doctor conducts the examination. This can reduce anxiety and make the process smoother.
Finally, ask the doctor about any resources that could assist your journey as a dementia caregiver. They may be aware of community supports, such as adult day programs or support groups, that could be helpful. Fieldstone of Bainbridge hosts one such support group every fourth Thursday of the month.
After the appointment
Summarize any new information or prescriptions and quickly schedule any follow-up appointments while the information is fresh in your mind. Share relevant information with other members of your loved one’s health care team, including specialists, pharmacists, or home health providers. Communicate with other family members about changes in your loved one’s condition or routine.
Support from long-term care
If your loved one with dementia is living in an assisted living or memory care community, there are likely supports in place to help you handle their health care.
Many communities offer transportation to and from medical appointments or have a standard day where they bus residents to appointments. Fieldstone of Bainbridge has both a bus and a van for transporting residents.
But, for the most part, Ward explained, caregivers and staff at Fieldstone of Bainbridge are not able to accompany your loved one all the way into the doctor’s office. Family members still need to attend the appointment. That can be challenging for family caregivers, but there is an alternative.
Fieldstone of Bainbridge has partnered with Seva Medical, a physician-owned medical practice dedicated to bringing health care services to long-term care communities.
“Seva has been great,” said Community Relations Director Randi O’Neal. “We just had a resident move in who hadn’t seen a doctor in more than three years. Seva was able to get her seen in 24 hours.”
O’Neal added that concierge medical appointments are a great benefit for many of their residents who have moved to Bainbridge from another state. In addition to Seva Medical, Fieldstone of Bainbridge brings in podiatrists, dentists, and other medical professionals so that residents can get the care they need, right where they live.
Taking your loved one with dementia to medical appointments requires patience, preparation, and flexibility. While it can be challenging, maintaining regular health care is crucial for their well-being. With thoughtful planning and clear communication with health care providers, you can help ensure your loved one receives the care they need while preserving their dignity and minimizing stress for both of you.
